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 Advice From Aunty Carol (editor's note - this agony advice column is genuine, unlike much on this site) Well, actually, its my best friend. You see, this friend (we shall call Mr.L) is currently single, 25 and living with his parents. He would like to get a girlfriend and has picked up the attention of a girl (we shall call Ms.K). This girl is in her twenties, attractive, friendly and very keen on Mr.L. She also has a two year old son from a previous relationship. The problem is that Mr.L feels he would be unable to support Ms.K in his current situation - he only has temporary employment and no house of his own. There is also the issue of going into a relationship with a child there already, which he might not be quite ready for. However, it could work out, they are good friends and fairly keen on each other. What, pray tell, should he do? Thanks, Luv Bob/Rob/Steve
Hi Bob, Rob and Steve This is quite a nice romantic 'problem' to start off the column! Let's think... Just because you're a certain age doesn't instantly mean you have to be any more mature or responsible than any other comparative person, but taking on a relationship with children involved (quite rightly) deserves extra consideration. If you really don't like kids, or can't handle a bit of responsibility then run for the hills and never look back. On the other hand, this lady really fancies this guy and (presuming it's not a casual shag she wants) this could be well worth the effort. First of all, he needs to consider if kids are a problem for him. If they are, then he should forget the whole thing- he'll only end up hurting her in the long run. As for the financial situation, things change. He should ask the lady what she thinks. I'm sure it won't be a problem and these are certain issues that may crop up again, later, once they've seen if a romantic relationship works. In the meantime, if he really wants this girl, and she wants him- i believe they should give it a go. But, as always, it has to be what you both want. Let's face it, taking a chance on something is less lonely and more exciting than the alternative. |
